How soon is too soon to propose? Doesn’t this sound like one of those things where if you had a pre-described methodology, a certain number of checkboxes to fill and a procedure to follow to reach the end goal, it would be amazing?
As you can never really tell by a given standard that it is the right time or it is not, it is more of a momentary feeling, the happiness when it happens, or maybe the doom of sadness when things don’t go as planned.
And you must have heard a lot of people say ” When the time is right, you will know”.
So, you could probably wait for that feeling or that click or you can read the below to have a sense of better understanding and more relatability.
1. Signs that Show that it is Time to Propose
1.1. The Feeling of Security and Comfort
Every relationship starts with a lot of questions and doubts and eventually, all of it falls into place if the person is right.
As time goes by all the questions are answered and all the doubts are cleared, and if after all that you feel the same for the other person, the love is still intact; then the feeling of comfort rises high, and you feel a sense of security and you have developed the acceptance of that person and cherish it with your heart.
1.2. Having the Thought of Marriage
When you have spent sufficient time with a person, and things have glided along; I will not say smoothly but with a fair share of ups and downs.
When you have a basket full of memories both good and bad and you don’t want them to ever fade away.
This is when you start feeling that you want to spend your life with that individual and keep making more memories with them. So, the thought of marriage comes to your mind.
1.3. You Completely Understand the Other Person
Now that you have spent a lot of time, and have a complete understanding of the other person’s behavior; you now only know how they behave with you but also see and understand their behavior towards other people in your life, or strangers for that matter.
You know in your heart if this is the correct behavior if you love them for the way they behave, or if you feel like there is a lack of general sense or respect.
1.4. You have Met the People of His/Her Life
Although not a primary part of a relationship, but a very important part. It is very necessary to meet the family and friends of any person you are in a serious relationship with.
This not only helps you get closer to them but also helps you to understand your partner better, with the help of the perspective of his close circle.
And if you take your relationship ahead you will know what you’re getting yourself into, because they will then become your friends and family as well.
2. Signs that Show that it is not Yet Time to Propose
2.1. Fear of the Future
Now that a certain time has passed by, the question about marrying the person you’re in a relationship with is bound to pop into your head.
So, if in case you ask the question or try to make a conversation about the same and you feel like the other person is not ready for the conversation, or worst case they feel like this concept does not suit your relationship; then you might want to re-think your idea of proposing and if they seem very much off, then you might as well rethink about the person too.
2.2. Having Too Many or Too Few Arguments
So this is a tricky part, you will only be able to analyze this after serious introspection and retrospection.
Given the two of you do not fight at all, it is very unnatural there is something wrong between the two of you. You have not yet encountered the real person, it is probably just a conversation with a façade.
Having arguments is healthy, it tells your opinions and helps you voice out your feelings.
Although, if you are fighting a lot, about everything be it little or big there can be trouble because you both might not be compatible with each other.
There must be a very strong contrast between your line of thought. If the fights are getting ugly, there is a loss of respect, and vulgar abusive behaviors then it is a strong sign to figure out what you should do with your relationship as proposing is completely off the list.
2.3. You don’t Know Much about His/Her Life
So, there can be a lot of reasons why you do not know much about the other person’s life, this refers to the life outside of you.
Maybe you met in a city where they’re away from friends and family, maybe they’re not very comfortable sharing these details easily and maybe a very less amount of time has been spent together by the two of you.
Whatever, the reason is until you have the complete knowledge of the person, his life and expectations do not jump fast to the next steps.
Take your time, and see how things are working out between you. Try making decisions together, and see how much trouble they create and how much effort is required to keep them intact.
3. Final Thoughts
Although, you can not define a timeline because this is a very person-relevant concept, something that is too early for you might be late for someone else. There can be a whole other set of people who can never be ready, and some are always ready.
It also depends upon the type of relationship you are in, how much are you seriously involved with the other person, and whether is there some future you seek.
So, whenever you’re feeling like you want to ‘ put a ring on it ‘, then you must surely move forward and take the next step.